Healthy Anger

In "Letting Go of Anger - The Eleven Most Common Anger Styles & What to Do About Them", Ron Potter-Efron and Patricia Potter-Efron explain that people who use anger well have a healthy or "normal" relationship with anger. These people tend to think of anger in the following ways:

• Anger is a normal part of life.
• Anger is an accurate signal of problems that need to be addressed.
  
• Angry actions are carefully screened; you needn't get automatically angry just because you could.
  
• Anger is expressed in moderation so that there is no loss of control.
• The goal is to solve problems, not just to express anger. In addition, the goal is not to hurt others.
  
• Anger is clearly stated in ways that others can understand.
• Anger is temporary; it can be relinquished once a problem is solved.
  

Anger is a signal that something is wrong in your life that needs to be addressed. You need to re-examine the way in which you've dealt with anger in the past and ask yourself if it's the most effective way there is to deal with anger. If not, you need to pick a new strategy to deal with your anger that will help you to obtain the results you desire. For information on how to control anger, visit my Squidoo lens: "Controlling Anger: Tips, Techniques, and Resources".